People Can’t Change

Who said that? Surely you jest! When was the last time you heard that phrase? Do you agree or disagree? Can you remember who said it & why? Of course people can change – if they want to. And that’s the only reason they should. All else is futile.

Troubled Relationships: Two individuals who struggle with their own authenticity unconsciously conspire toward an inauthentic relationship. This is one of the largest impediments to successful relationships. Two individuals struggling with their own authenticity won’t experience a thriving relationship. What we might refer to as a troubled relationship is actually a manifestation of the challenges each individual face in their own personal evolution, but just further projected onto the external relationship. It’s the exceptional individual who seeks authenticity.”

Source: ‘Seeking Authenticity

So who might say such a thing? Insatiably curious I am. Could be:

  • those with no desire to change
  • those who think they don’t have the power to change
  • those whose partner is trying to change them
  • those who are trying to change their partner

Excellent advice here, I completely agree with this list – how many of these do you do?

Authentic Relationships – Do You Have a Genuine Connection?

If you aren’t in an authentic relationship, you’re essentially dating a layer. A mask. There is no relationship. It can be a toxic mess. I always thought setting out to change the one you’re with was complete insanity. What they should have done was change the one they’re with for a completely different one more like what they actually want. No one should be trying to make you into what they think you should be. Nor should you ever ask anybody to change for you. Why would you choose a partner based on everything you don’t want – it’s insanity. Pick someone else.

Oh, you wanted to buy a red shirt but you bought a blue one? Are you going to sit at home all night crying, yelling at the red shirt – begging it to be blue?

That infamous Jim Carrey scene in Liar, Liar plays on my inner movie reel:

Why get a cat if what you really wanted was a dog? Why try day after day after day to get that cat to fetch, sit, stay, lay down, or roll over, to no avail? Why not just go out & get a dog?!

Learning as much as I can about human behavior, human nature, & both enlightened & twisted psyches has helped me ‘read between the lines’ – read people far beyond the limited verbal communication, & helped my awareness skyrocket.

I changed. Because I wanted to.

Cuz why drink one beer at a time when you can drink 4 & go from sober to blackout within the hour? Who does that? An unawakened Soul. Anybody can change, I’m living proof. And I’m far from the only one. I can think of a few people who I know who have done so just as drastically.

Took me a long time to realize & rid my life of all the toxic people in it. Funny (but not really funny – it sucks) when those ‘who care about you most’ refuse to accept you for who you are. What that translates into it is they who cannot accept themselves for who they are. It is of the utmost importance to Wake Up, to Find Yourself; the amount of suffering we cause ourselves & others before we do is incredible. So many of the problems we faced within ourselves, others, & in relationships was due to not yet having had the necessary awakening in which self-awareness & self-reflection are born. The necessary life lessons must be learned to help you grow & evolve in order to operate in a different, much better manner – from a place of gratitude, kindness, love, compassion, honor, empathy, harmony & respect.

This meme so accurately describes my journey so far, & cracks me right up every time!


Remember to just be yourself.

Never apologize for who you are.

My favorite awake ‘n’ aware friend kindly reminds me to never apologize for being who I am. How refreshing – I love it 😉 He is so right on. Very very wise. I don’t know if he knows the importance & the depth of that truth for me, & what it meant to me to hear that. Such a good friend. I’ll be sure to let him know 😉 I’ve met so many ‘like-souled’ souls on WP, people I’m proud to call friends. I love you all.

Awake 🙂 I want to explore, play, wonder 😉


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